Coping with Change
Seasons bring change upon us whether we are ready for them or not. You can count on the fact that things change in life, it’s inevitable. A good reminder of this is the weather changing, leaves changing colors, and the good old pumpkin spice lattes are back. If you are currently in a difficult situation or circumstance check in on how you are thinking and feeling about it. Chances are later in the day or week you’ll have a different perspective on it. That’s because feelings and thoughts change and thank goodness for that. If you are really emotional about something do something kind for yourself like venting to a friend, journaling, or taking a walk and see if it helps. When you can take a step back and calm down, you can then examine your thoughts, and see if you are thinking logically or emotionally. We can’t always believe our feelings. We have to make sure they align with our thoughts, values, and actions. We are imperfect and supposed to make mistakes so go easy on yourself if you don’t like what you see. People don’t always change or don’t want to and you do have to be aware of your expectations as well as their capabilities. If you are in an unhealthy relationship dynamic, make sure the other person is willing to do their part. If they don’t care or don’t apologize then they’ll most likely continue doing what they do. Be wise with who you let in your life and why. Here are five tips for managing life’s changes.
Do daily self check ins
Challenge your thoughts
Learn from your emotions
Manage your expectations
Do something good for yourself